Thursday, May 31, 2007 at 1:01am
So you want to be unlimited
Column: Unclutter Your Life
We say we want to be unlimited. We do affirmations about this, converse with others, read books, attend workshops, and so on. One reason people want to feel unlimited is because of what they perceive they lack in their lives. The thing is, though — to be unlimited, we have to let go of attachments and judgments. Completely.
Pause and think about this for a moment, and what it really means. If we're unlimited, how would we relate to the world around us? This includes our culture, religion, political affiliations, people, events. We usually define who we are by our beliefs and opinions: I like or approve of "this." I don't like or approve of "that." As unlimited beings, what could we judge and why would we need or choose to?
One reason we struggle with this is that we believe we can instantly become unlimited after decades of living in judgment and holding close our attachments and opinions. Perhaps a more accurate statement would be: "I choose to expand my conscious awareness and release limitations gradually, as appropriate for me, as I continue to comprehend and embrace what being unlimited means." That seems more authentic. To become unlimited, we have to peel away the layers of our beliefs as we would the layers of an onion. Not necessarily a rapid experience.
Information conflicts about how to have what you want — whether you are to approach this from the inner or outer level, or both. One thing is clear about how the quantum field works: You cannot desire or want something and receive it because the field will provide scenarios that affirm your focus on your state of want. The art (or science) of this requires you determine what you choose to have, energize it by fully feeling what it's like to have it, then release having it. By not desiring something, you become free to have it. That is, if it's in alignment with your highest good. People forget this very important clause.
I prefer fail-safe statements such as "I embrace what is for the highest good of all involved." This allows me to participate at my "local" level, as well as allow for the momentum of the larger one. In my ego-based perspective, I simply don't have enough information at times to know what is best for all involved. This requires trust.
One thing I remind myself of often is to keep it real. I'm not prepared to be completely unlimited at this time. I'm enjoying my experiences and process far too much. Just as we enjoy watching a child learn and grow, we benefit when we apply the same to ourselves, especially if we release judgment about how and when it occurs and just agree to mindfully participate.
Striving to be unlimited is much like striving to be perfect. Maybe it isn't really as desirable (or realistic) as we wish to believe. Maybe it creates more stress (strive/strife) by believing we must be unlimited — which, of course, is a judgment that attracts more limitations into our lives to affirm what it is we feel we lack. ... The dog chasing its own tail and going nowhere.
What might it feel like to Just Be instead of focusing on what you believe you are not or believing that doing leads to being? We are, after all, human beings. Feel free to change anything you wish about yourself or your life; but, it's OK if you want to love and accept yourself just as you are now. Think of what that will attract into your life.
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Joyce Shafer is a life empowerment coach and author of "I Don't Want to be Your Guru, but I Have Something to Say", as well as "How to Have What You Really Want", and contributor of articles to various publications. She has an eclectic background and focuses on learning, growing, and sharing information at every opportunity. She can be emailed at {email jls1422@yahoo.com}jls1422@yahoo.com{/email}. © copyright 2007 by Joyce Shafer.
Pause and think about this for a moment, and what it really means. If we're unlimited, how would we relate to the world around us? This includes our culture, religion, political affiliations, people, events. We usually define who we are by our beliefs and opinions: I like or approve of "this." I don't like or approve of "that." As unlimited beings, what could we judge and why would we need or choose to?
One reason we struggle with this is that we believe we can instantly become unlimited after decades of living in judgment and holding close our attachments and opinions. Perhaps a more accurate statement would be: "I choose to expand my conscious awareness and release limitations gradually, as appropriate for me, as I continue to comprehend and embrace what being unlimited means." That seems more authentic. To become unlimited, we have to peel away the layers of our beliefs as we would the layers of an onion. Not necessarily a rapid experience.
Information conflicts about how to have what you want — whether you are to approach this from the inner or outer level, or both. One thing is clear about how the quantum field works: You cannot desire or want something and receive it because the field will provide scenarios that affirm your focus on your state of want. The art (or science) of this requires you determine what you choose to have, energize it by fully feeling what it's like to have it, then release having it. By not desiring something, you become free to have it. That is, if it's in alignment with your highest good. People forget this very important clause.
I prefer fail-safe statements such as "I embrace what is for the highest good of all involved." This allows me to participate at my "local" level, as well as allow for the momentum of the larger one. In my ego-based perspective, I simply don't have enough information at times to know what is best for all involved. This requires trust.
One thing I remind myself of often is to keep it real. I'm not prepared to be completely unlimited at this time. I'm enjoying my experiences and process far too much. Just as we enjoy watching a child learn and grow, we benefit when we apply the same to ourselves, especially if we release judgment about how and when it occurs and just agree to mindfully participate.
Striving to be unlimited is much like striving to be perfect. Maybe it isn't really as desirable (or realistic) as we wish to believe. Maybe it creates more stress (strive/strife) by believing we must be unlimited — which, of course, is a judgment that attracts more limitations into our lives to affirm what it is we feel we lack. ... The dog chasing its own tail and going nowhere.
What might it feel like to Just Be instead of focusing on what you believe you are not or believing that doing leads to being? We are, after all, human beings. Feel free to change anything you wish about yourself or your life; but, it's OK if you want to love and accept yourself just as you are now. Think of what that will attract into your life.
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Joyce Shafer is a life empowerment coach and author of "I Don't Want to be Your Guru, but I Have Something to Say", as well as "How to Have What You Really Want", and contributor of articles to various publications. She has an eclectic background and focuses on learning, growing, and sharing information at every opportunity. She can be emailed at {email jls1422@yahoo.com}jls1422@yahoo.com{/email}. © copyright 2007 by Joyce Shafer.