Thursday, September 6, 2007 at 1:01am
Let go of the fairy tale
Column: Unclutter Your Life
In a fairy tale, a person may walk up to the magic mirror on the wall, look at his/her reflection and say, "I wish I was beautiful/handsome," and poof! — it's done.
The quantum field mirror, however, is not a fairy tale. It is an absolute reflection of our emotionally charged thought-forms. To utter the same statement above grants you opportunities to continue to wish for the change, to perhaps even become consumed by it. This may happen by finding yourself continuously noticing how others look and comparing yourself to them, feeling surrounded by people you believe are more attractive (or whatever your particular perception of lack is).
I spent an afternoon with a friend who's been going through a challenging period for a while. It's the kind of situation he has to figure out and resolve on his own. We've talked about it several times, and whenever we've spoken, his comments about this and most other things are negative in nature. This visit, I spoke very gently about the quantum field mirror. He was polite, but not truly receptive.
We were looking for a restaurant and drove around looking at options. When we made our choice, he said, "Now, the problem is to find a place to park." I said, "Maybe we'll find one easily." He turned left and started to drive. I pointed to his left and said, "He's leaving." We parked nearly at the front door of the restaurant. He brought the quantum conversation up again over dinner, admitted to resistance, and we talked more about it, though I never pushed. When he was leaving to return home, he said, "Time for me to go home and spend over an hour looking for a parking space."
We are so conditioned to believing things as "givens" in life, with no guidance about quantum field manifestation, that we set ourselves up repeatedly to have certain experiences. In this example, if my friend can give energy to parking being difficult, couldn't he also give energy to it being easy?
The other part of this manifestation process I've written about before is the release to "This or something better." Another restaurant was our first choice. We'd parked, walked to it, then saw the waiting line. Our second choice was better. We parked in front and were able to dine outside on a perfect evening for it, not an option the first restaurant offered.
The thoughts we don't manage lead to feelings we don't want that attract experiences we wonder why we're having. It's simple, but not easy at the start. We are, very simply, conditioned to think a certain way. To paraphrase the popular quote: If you want something different, you have to do something differently.
His other comment was that things just happen to people over which they have no control. Rather than dwelling on that statement as it is, think about the underlying theme: We aren't in control. What helps is to move past that and ask ourselves: Can we at least manage ourselves, our thoughts, and our feelings at all times? When you can answer with a clear Yes, you're on your way. When we recognize the difference in energy between "I want THIS or I won't be happy" and "This or something even better," we also recognize the level of instruction it provides to the quantum mirror.
"Quantum mirror
On the wall,
I appreciate
It all."
— — —
Joyce Shafer is a life empowerment coach and author of "I Don't Want to be Your Guru, but I Have Something to Say" as well as "How to Have What You Really Want," and contributor of articles to various publications. She has an eclectic background and focuses on learning, growing, and sharing information at every opportunity. She can be emailed at {email jls1422@yahoo.com}jls1422@yahoo.com{/email}. © Copyright 2007 by Joyce Shafer.
The quantum field mirror, however, is not a fairy tale. It is an absolute reflection of our emotionally charged thought-forms. To utter the same statement above grants you opportunities to continue to wish for the change, to perhaps even become consumed by it. This may happen by finding yourself continuously noticing how others look and comparing yourself to them, feeling surrounded by people you believe are more attractive (or whatever your particular perception of lack is).
I spent an afternoon with a friend who's been going through a challenging period for a while. It's the kind of situation he has to figure out and resolve on his own. We've talked about it several times, and whenever we've spoken, his comments about this and most other things are negative in nature. This visit, I spoke very gently about the quantum field mirror. He was polite, but not truly receptive.
We were looking for a restaurant and drove around looking at options. When we made our choice, he said, "Now, the problem is to find a place to park." I said, "Maybe we'll find one easily." He turned left and started to drive. I pointed to his left and said, "He's leaving." We parked nearly at the front door of the restaurant. He brought the quantum conversation up again over dinner, admitted to resistance, and we talked more about it, though I never pushed. When he was leaving to return home, he said, "Time for me to go home and spend over an hour looking for a parking space."
We are so conditioned to believing things as "givens" in life, with no guidance about quantum field manifestation, that we set ourselves up repeatedly to have certain experiences. In this example, if my friend can give energy to parking being difficult, couldn't he also give energy to it being easy?
The other part of this manifestation process I've written about before is the release to "This or something better." Another restaurant was our first choice. We'd parked, walked to it, then saw the waiting line. Our second choice was better. We parked in front and were able to dine outside on a perfect evening for it, not an option the first restaurant offered.
The thoughts we don't manage lead to feelings we don't want that attract experiences we wonder why we're having. It's simple, but not easy at the start. We are, very simply, conditioned to think a certain way. To paraphrase the popular quote: If you want something different, you have to do something differently.
His other comment was that things just happen to people over which they have no control. Rather than dwelling on that statement as it is, think about the underlying theme: We aren't in control. What helps is to move past that and ask ourselves: Can we at least manage ourselves, our thoughts, and our feelings at all times? When you can answer with a clear Yes, you're on your way. When we recognize the difference in energy between "I want THIS or I won't be happy" and "This or something even better," we also recognize the level of instruction it provides to the quantum mirror.
"Quantum mirror
On the wall,
I appreciate
It all."
— — —
Joyce Shafer is a life empowerment coach and author of "I Don't Want to be Your Guru, but I Have Something to Say" as well as "How to Have What You Really Want," and contributor of articles to various publications. She has an eclectic background and focuses on learning, growing, and sharing information at every opportunity. She can be emailed at {email jls1422@yahoo.com}jls1422@yahoo.com{/email}. © Copyright 2007 by Joyce Shafer.