Thursday, January 24, 2008 at 2:02am
Push or pull
Column: Unclutter Your Life
In four days, I've watched "The Secret" four times, though it definitely was not my first viewing. I mentioned this to a friend who responded, "I heard the secret is never actually revealed."
I think the reason some people feel the secret isn't blatant has to do with the fact our brains don't respond to the word "don't." Years back, I heard if a child usually slams the door, it won't work to say, "Don't slam the door," because all the brain hears is, "Slam the door." The correct way to state it is, "Please close the door gently."
We fret about what we don't want because that's what those we learned from did. So when the secret is demonstrated to us in the movie, our brain may hiccup over significant, subtle bits of information. Joe Vitale mentioned it's OK to notice what we don't want (notice, not dwell on) for the purpose of contrast; but then we have to let that go and align our feelings to what we choose to experience.
It was also stated that if we just observe what is, we then focus on what is, which then attracts more of what we focus on; and this cycle goes on ad nauseam. What Is is only the outcome of the thoughts and feelings we've held up to that point. If we focus on what we perceive as a person's negative aspects, are they going to behave better? If we focus more on getting out of debt than the infinite abundance all around us, what can we expect more of?
Esther Hicks pointed out that when we desire to push something away, we pull it toward us. The quantum field we often call the Universe is like our brain in that it doesn't respond to "don't" either. We have to think, speak and feel our Yes so that our desired outcome is what the quantum field sends us more of. We can't desire something and simultaneously feel we'll never have it nor keep our attention on what we don't like.
We gain more ground when we appreciate what we have, what we've created so far, and that we can create something different for ourselves. We tend to stop short at the idea that we had anything to do with where we are now; but until we at least agree that maybe that's possible, we won't experience more of what we truly want. Best not to dwell on what we did or didn't do, just choose to do things differently.
There's only one infinite power, and it's a stream of infinite abundance. It's like a water tap. The water doesn't decide how much of it streams through the faucet, and neither does the quantum field decide how open or closed we are to receiving. We decide whether the water (or energy) drips, trickles, or flows.
Which seems easier: To push or to pull?
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Joyce Shafer is a life empowerment coach and author of "I Don't Want to be Your Guru, but I Have Something to Say" as well as "How to Have What You Really Want" and contributor of articles to various publications. She's also a free-lance proofreader, editor and ghost re-writer for fiction and non-fiction writers. Shafer can be emailed at {email jls1422@yahoo.com}jls1422@yahoo.com{/email}. © Copyright 2008 by Joyce Shafer.
I think the reason some people feel the secret isn't blatant has to do with the fact our brains don't respond to the word "don't." Years back, I heard if a child usually slams the door, it won't work to say, "Don't slam the door," because all the brain hears is, "Slam the door." The correct way to state it is, "Please close the door gently."
We fret about what we don't want because that's what those we learned from did. So when the secret is demonstrated to us in the movie, our brain may hiccup over significant, subtle bits of information. Joe Vitale mentioned it's OK to notice what we don't want (notice, not dwell on) for the purpose of contrast; but then we have to let that go and align our feelings to what we choose to experience.
It was also stated that if we just observe what is, we then focus on what is, which then attracts more of what we focus on; and this cycle goes on ad nauseam. What Is is only the outcome of the thoughts and feelings we've held up to that point. If we focus on what we perceive as a person's negative aspects, are they going to behave better? If we focus more on getting out of debt than the infinite abundance all around us, what can we expect more of?
Esther Hicks pointed out that when we desire to push something away, we pull it toward us. The quantum field we often call the Universe is like our brain in that it doesn't respond to "don't" either. We have to think, speak and feel our Yes so that our desired outcome is what the quantum field sends us more of. We can't desire something and simultaneously feel we'll never have it nor keep our attention on what we don't like.
We gain more ground when we appreciate what we have, what we've created so far, and that we can create something different for ourselves. We tend to stop short at the idea that we had anything to do with where we are now; but until we at least agree that maybe that's possible, we won't experience more of what we truly want. Best not to dwell on what we did or didn't do, just choose to do things differently.
There's only one infinite power, and it's a stream of infinite abundance. It's like a water tap. The water doesn't decide how much of it streams through the faucet, and neither does the quantum field decide how open or closed we are to receiving. We decide whether the water (or energy) drips, trickles, or flows.
Which seems easier: To push or to pull?
— — —
Joyce Shafer is a life empowerment coach and author of "I Don't Want to be Your Guru, but I Have Something to Say" as well as "How to Have What You Really Want" and contributor of articles to various publications. She's also a free-lance proofreader, editor and ghost re-writer for fiction and non-fiction writers. Shafer can be emailed at {email jls1422@yahoo.com}jls1422@yahoo.com{/email}. © Copyright 2008 by Joyce Shafer.