…a long habit of not thinking a thing wrong, gives it a superficial appearance of being right….-Thomas Paine (Common Sense: Introduction)


Yuck. Pew. Last Friday I saw a New York Daily News picture of TV talk show host, Ellen DeGeneres, kissing her actress girlfriend, Portia de Ross.” Then I read the caption underneath informing me that the two of them are planning to “marry.” It ain’t right. You don’t have to be a rocket scientist to see what I am saying here, okay? Just listen to common sense.

Young boys and girls growing up have little interest in the opposite sex. Instead, they tend to want to play and associate with their same sex. Gradually boys and girls discover they are actually interested in and excited by the opposite sex. A few years later we see these same boys and girls, who once had no interest in one another, now wanting to marry and spend the rest of their lives together. This phenomenon goes on all over the world and transcends race, culture, and nationality.

A man’s sexual organ, his penis, is built to give out and deliver his seed into a woman. A woman’s sexual organ, her vagina, is built to receive this seed. What happens when the man’s seed is properly received by the woman? A new human being is brought into the world. In this sense the woman’s body exists for the sake of man and the man’s body exists for the sake of woman. It is common sense to conclude that this process is natural, purposeful, and normal. How much more explanation do we need to see that this is so?

What is the power that eventually draws these two opposites together and inspires them to want to live together forever as husband wife? It is the power of true love. Where does this love come from? It comes from God. A young boy and girl posses innate urges to complete themselves, fully, through a union with their equal and opposite half. This is the natural process for all boys and girls to go through. Man is completed through woman and woman is completed through man. True love, from God, is the power that makes this union possible. It is that simple.

This is my “Thomas Paine” approach to the idea of same-sex marriage. The current emotional appeal to accept same sex union as a legitimate expression of human love is simply bogus. All young men and women need to carefully consider how to protect and nurture the divine love God has implanted in their soul. Divine love is intended to be fully expressed through the union of man and woman in marriage.

No matter how long we are bombard with images and messages that proclaim what is wrong as right, i.e., same sex marriage, let’s not be lulled into thinking something wrong is actually right. Let’s remember that common sense ought to prevail within the market place of ideas. To help protect your soul and nurture your authentic self, I’m providing a short list of reminders to be used when needed.

• Human love originates from God, not self.
• Men and women are born to realize perfect love through the vehicle of marriage.
• Man’s sexual organ belongs to woman.
• Woman’s sexual organ belongs to man.
• Common sense dictates that same sex attraction or union is wrong, not right.

God Bless You!

Jack LaValley is a practitioner of the martial arts, physical cultivation exercises, and sitting meditation. Although currently working in the hospitality industry, he spends much of his free time helping and working together with those who are pursuing the spiritual path. Jack and his wife, Wha-ja Oh-LaValley, a native of South Korea, reside in Westchester County, New York, and are the proud parents of three beautiful children. Jack is completing his book manuscript, "A Perfectly Balanced Life: Living Each Day with Wisdom and Strength," and expects publication to be in October 2008. You can reach Jack at: perfectbalance1@optimum.net © Copyright 2008 by Jack LaValley.