Friday, June 27, 2008 at 2:02pm
Intimacy Going Down The Tube?
Column: God In Real Time
Here are 10 easy things you can do to keep your intimacy from going down the tube
1. Turn routine into romance - sometimes you have to go way back and remember the you that captured that spouses heart and bring that person back to life
2. Turn practical into play - what playful things did you used to do back in the day that turned into foreplay and passion. Please don't tell me that you can't remember anything.
3. Turn predictability into spontaneous - some of you rember the back seat of the car, skinny dipping on the beach and love outside the bedroom when the kids weren't home. I remember a lady saying last year she remembered the elevator. I can't imagine that one but it worked for them once, maybe they should try it again.
4. Turn words into worship - sometimes your entire relationship can go from 0-60 just by speaking kinds and loving words towards each other
5. Turn the bedroom into a ballroom - a few weeks ago one of my favorite morning shows was on and they talked to couples that had exciting relationships. One thing that all had in common was that they fixed up their bedrooms to get more play. They did it in different ways like bringing in candles, using satin sheets, bringing in air spray diffusers that kept scents going, playing soft music or having a romantic dinners in their bedroom. All of them said they did not do this everyday because they wanted it to be special, but they did it enough to keep a flame going. What I found amazing was that with these couples, the men did most of the talking.
6. Turn ordinary into extraordinary - give your spouse a good day from morning until night every day and see if this does not heat things up. Don't give them an ordinary day, give them an extraordinary day. Go the extra mile. I like the way one pastor said it, he said if you show compassion, you will always get passion.
7. Turn your mind into their mind - learn to read between the lines, because if you can do things for them before they ask, it will bless your bedroom
8. Turn words to action - Love is a verb, saying it is great but showing it is better
9. Turn memories into unforgetable moments - create some unforgettable moments to make them physically want you. Remember those diamond commercials, what happens everytime the woman gets a ring and we know it all starts with a kiss
10. Turn selfishness off and turn satisfaction on - always do more for your spouse than you do for yourself. In today's society we laugh at grandma who had her husbands meal prepared everyday, slippers and the newspaper at the front door, but grandma held on to her man for 50 years and in our day if you make it five years, that is remarkable. We can learn a lot from the old school.
Feel free to visit Rev. Leon's blog at lifeis2good@wordpress.com.
1. Turn routine into romance - sometimes you have to go way back and remember the you that captured that spouses heart and bring that person back to life
2. Turn practical into play - what playful things did you used to do back in the day that turned into foreplay and passion. Please don't tell me that you can't remember anything.
3. Turn predictability into spontaneous - some of you rember the back seat of the car, skinny dipping on the beach and love outside the bedroom when the kids weren't home. I remember a lady saying last year she remembered the elevator. I can't imagine that one but it worked for them once, maybe they should try it again.
4. Turn words into worship - sometimes your entire relationship can go from 0-60 just by speaking kinds and loving words towards each other
5. Turn the bedroom into a ballroom - a few weeks ago one of my favorite morning shows was on and they talked to couples that had exciting relationships. One thing that all had in common was that they fixed up their bedrooms to get more play. They did it in different ways like bringing in candles, using satin sheets, bringing in air spray diffusers that kept scents going, playing soft music or having a romantic dinners in their bedroom. All of them said they did not do this everyday because they wanted it to be special, but they did it enough to keep a flame going. What I found amazing was that with these couples, the men did most of the talking.
6. Turn ordinary into extraordinary - give your spouse a good day from morning until night every day and see if this does not heat things up. Don't give them an ordinary day, give them an extraordinary day. Go the extra mile. I like the way one pastor said it, he said if you show compassion, you will always get passion.
7. Turn your mind into their mind - learn to read between the lines, because if you can do things for them before they ask, it will bless your bedroom
8. Turn words to action - Love is a verb, saying it is great but showing it is better
9. Turn memories into unforgetable moments - create some unforgettable moments to make them physically want you. Remember those diamond commercials, what happens everytime the woman gets a ring and we know it all starts with a kiss
10. Turn selfishness off and turn satisfaction on - always do more for your spouse than you do for yourself. In today's society we laugh at grandma who had her husbands meal prepared everyday, slippers and the newspaper at the front door, but grandma held on to her man for 50 years and in our day if you make it five years, that is remarkable. We can learn a lot from the old school.
Feel free to visit Rev. Leon's blog at lifeis2good@wordpress.com.